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16 février 2014

Feel.

Feel.

Sens mon regard se porter sur la femme que tu es.
Sens le mélange subtil de mélancolie et de compassion qu'il porte. Sens-y l'admiration, aussi.

Sens aussi mon âme aux cotés de la tienne. Une simple présence amicale, une main tendue par un bras qui n'a pas la force de te relever.

Sens la chaleur que j'aimerais t'apporter, ce réconfort dont tu es privée.

Il y a tant de choses que les mots ne portent pas.

Les frissons, les pensées, les envies. Choses invisibles qui font la force de la vie.

Tu es Belle, tu es Forte, mais tu ne sais pas Danser ?

L’éternité c’est long quand on marche sans cœur.

*Je suis le cavalier sans tête*
*Et je cherche un amour*
*Au travers les tempêtes*
*Moi je cherche le jour*
*Moi je cherche la flamme*
*Qui viendra m’éclairer l’âme*
*Du haut de ma monture sur des escaliers de brumes*
*J’entends le cri des hommes qui ont perdu l’amour*
*Alors j’envie soudain ceux qui ont larme à l’œil*
*Qui pleurent l’océan à se noyer dedans*

Ne te noie pas Erell. Ne te noie pas dans la Liberté. Si tu ne sais pas Danser, Nage. =)

02 février 2014

Date a boy who travels.

Date a boy who travels. Date a boy who treasures experience over toys, a hand-woven bracelet over a Rolex. Date the boy who scoffs when he hears the words, "vacation," "all-inclusive" or "resort." Date a boy who travels because he's not blinded by a single goal but enlivened by many.

You might find him in an airport or at a book store browsing the travel guides -- although he "only uses them for reference."

You'll know it's him because when you peek at his computer screen his background will be a scenic splendor of rolling hills, mountains or prayer flags. His Facebook friend count will be over-the-roof and his wall will be plastered with the broken English 'miss-you' of friends he met along the way. When he travels he makes lifelong friends in an hour. And although contact with these friends is sporadic and may be far-between his bonds are unmessable and if he wanted he could couch surf the world... again.

Buy him a beer. Maybe the same brand that he wears on the singlet under his plaid shirt, unable to truly let go. Once a traveller gets home people rarely listen to his stories. So listen to him. Allow him to paint a picture that brings you into his world. He might talk fast and miss small details because he's so excited to be heard. Bask in his enthusiasm. Want it for yourself.

He'll squeak like an excited toddler when his latest issue of National Geographic arrives in the mail. Then he'll grow quiet, engrossed, until he finishes his analysis of every photo, every adventure. In his mind he'll insert himself in these pictures. He'll pass the issue on to you and grill you about your dreams and competitively ask about the craziest thing you've ever done. Tell him. And know that he'll probably win. And if by chance you win, know that his next lot in life will be to out do you. But then he'll say, "Maybe we can do it together."

Date the boy who talks of distant places and whose hands have explored the stone relics of ancient civilizations and whose mind has imagined those hands carving, chiseling, painting the wonders of the world. And when he talks it's as if he's reliving it with you. You can almost hear his heart racing. You can almost feel the adrenaline ramped up by the moment. You feel it passing through his synapsis, a feast to his eyes entering through those tiny oracles of experience that we call pupils, digesting rapidly through his veins, manifesting into his nervous system, transforming and altering his worldview like a reverse trauma and finally passing but forever changing the colors of his sight. (Unless he's Karl Pilkington.) You will want this too.

Date a boy who's lived out of a backpack because he lives happily with less. A boy who's travelled has seen poverty and dined with those who live in small shanties with no running water, and yet welcome strangers with greater hospitality than the rich. And because he's seen this he's seen how a life without luxury can mean a life fueled by relationships and family rather than a life that fuels fancy cars and ego. He's experienced different ways of being, respects alternative religions and he looks at the world with the eyes of a five-year-old, curious and hungry. Your dad will be happy too because he's good with money and knows how to budget.

This boy relishes home; the comfort of a duvet, the safety stirred in a mom-cooked meal, the easy conversation of childhood friends and the immaculate glory of the flush-toilet. Although fiercely independent, he has had time to reflect on himself and his relationships. Despite his wanderlust he knows and appreciates his ties to home. He has had a chance to miss and be missed. Because of this he also knows a thing or two about goodbyes. He knows the overwhelming uncertainty of leaving the comforts of home, the indefinite see-you-laters at the departure gates and yet he fearlessly goes into the unknown because he knows the feeling of return. And that the I've-missed-you-hug is the best type of hug in the whole world. He also knows that goodbyes are just prolonged see-you-laters and that 'hello' is only as far away as the nearest internet cafe.

Don't hold onto this boy. Let this boy go and go with him. If you haven't travelled, he will open your eyes to a world beyond the news and popular perception. He will open your dreams to possibility and reality. He will calm your nerves when you're about to miss a flight or when your rental blows a flat because he knows the journey is the adventure. He will make light of the unsavory noises you make when you -- and you will -- get food poisoning. He will make you laugh through the discomfort all while dabbing your forehead with a cold cloth and nursing you with bottled water. He will make you feel like you're home.

When you see something beautiful he will hold your hand in silence, in awe the history of where his feet stand and the fact that you're with him.

He will live in every moment with you because this is how he lives his life. He understands that happiness is no more than a string of moments that displace neutrality and he is determined to tie as many of these strings together as he can. He also understands your need to live for yourself and that you have a bucket list of your own. Understand his. Understand that your goals may at some points differ but that independence is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship when it's mutually respected. You may lose him for a bit but he will always come home bearing a new story and a souvenir he picked up because it reminded him of you, like it was made for you and because he missed you. You might be compelled to do the same. Make sure that independence is on your bucket list and make sure it's checked. Independence will keep your relationship fresh and exciting and when you're together again it will forge a bond of unbreakable trust.

He'll propose when you've breached your comfort-zone, whether it is a fear like skydiving or swimming with sharks or sitting next to the smelly person on an overcrowded bus. It won't be with a diamond ring but with a token from a native culture or inspired by nature, like the penguin and the pebble.

You will get married somewhere unassumed, surrounded by a select few in a moment constructed to celebrate venturing into the unknown together again. Marry the boy who's travelled and together you will make the whole world your home. Your honeymoon will not be forgotten to a buffet dinner and all-you-can-drink beach bars, but will be remembered in the triumphant photographs at the top of Kilimanjaro and memorialized in the rewarding ache of muscles at the end of a long days hike.

When you're ready you will have children that have the names of the characters you met on your journeys, the foreign names of people who dug a special place in your heart if only for a few days. Perhaps you will live in another country and your children will learn of language and customs that open their minds from the very start, leaving no room for prejudice. He will introduce them to the life of Hemingway, the journey of Santiago, and empower them to live even bigger than both of you.

Marry a boy who travels and he'll teach your children the beauty of a single stone, the history of the Incas and he will instill in them the bravery of possibility. He will explain to them that masking opportunity there is fear. He will teach them to concur it.

And when you're old you'll sit with your grandchildren poring over your photo albums and chest of worldly treasures while they too insert themselves into your photographs, sparked by the beauty of the world and inspired by your life in it.

Find a boy who travels because you deserve a life of adventure and possibility. You deserve to live light and embrace simplicity. You deserve to look at life through the eyes of youth and with your arms wide open. Because this is where you will find joy. And better, you will find joy together. And if you can't find him, travel. Go. Embrace it. Explore the world for yourself because dreams are the stuff reality is made from.

Originally published on Where Are My Heels.

01 février 2014

Don't date a boy who travels.

He’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. His skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed, it’s burnt with tan lines. He has wounds and bites here and there, but for every flaw on his skin, he has a story to tell.

Don’t date a boy who travels. He is hard to please. The usual dinner and movie date will not make for a repeat. His soul craves new experiences and adventures alike. He will be unimpressed with the talk about your new dress and new purse. He would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane, than hear about your possessions.


Don’t date a boy who travels, because he will bug you to book flights. Every time there’s an airline seat sale, even for a night. He won’t party at Republiq, and he will never pay for Avicii, because he knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.

Chances are he can’t hold a steady job, but even if he could, he’d probably be daydreaming about quitting as soon as he could. He doesn’t want to keep working his ass off for someone else’s dream. He has his own dream, and is busy working at it every day. He is a freelancer; he makes money from something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste his time complaining about your monotony.

Don’t date a boy who travels, he might have wasted his college degree, and he will definitely switched careers entirely. He is now a rafting instructor, rock climbing teacher, or whatever it may be. He’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming, but he’s happy he doesn’t work like a robot all day. He goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.

Don’t date a boy who travels, for he has chosen a life of uncertainty. He doesn’t have a plan or even a permanent address for that matter. He goes with the flow and follows his heart. No matter how cliché, he dances to the beat of his own drum. He doesn’t wear a watch, but maybe a ring on his thumb. When the waves are calling his life stops for a few moments, and he will become oblivious to everything else. But he has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t just surfing.

Don’t date a boy who travels, as he tends to speak his mind. He will never try to impress your parents and friends with his worldly mind. He knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues, social responsibility, or even something as mundane as everyday hate.

Don’t date a boy who travels, because he will never need you. He knows how to sew a button and can cook a mean stew. He can clean up like a whistle, and doesn’t need you to polish his boots. But if you try to help him tie his tie, he will be more than happy to be treated so well by you.

Don’t date a boy who travels, he is too independent. He won’t care whether you join him on his travels. He will forget to check in, and when he arrives, he will immediately hit the town for what’s sure to be a busy night. He’s always living in the present, talking to strangers. He will meet many very interesting, like-minded people. He will share his passion and dreams with people from around the world. In the end, he will get bored with the non-traveling people.

So, never date a boy who travels, unless you can keep up with him. If you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep him. Let him go.

Originally published on Love The Search.